Your requirements:
 -IPv6 capable system (no need to have IPv6, but libc must know inet_pton and friends)
 -ucspi-tcp including IPv6 patches (get them at http://www.fefe.de/ucspi/)
 -libowfat (>=0.22, get from http://www.fefe.de/libowfat/)
 -cdb.a (i.e. from vpopmail or qmail, both should worked)
 -qmail
 -openssl
 -vpopmail (optional)

How to install:
 1. Install qmail, apply all the patches you want. Ignore any problems with qmail-smtpd, it will not be needed.
    If you plan to use Qremote you can also ignore problems with qmail-remote
 2. Install vpopmail. If you don't want vpopmail you can't use all the nice features like immediately rejecting
    nonexistent users and per-user filter settings. Before building vpopmail change to vpopmail directory and
    apply the vpopmail patch:
    patch -p1 -i ../your/path/to/Qsmtpd/doc/vpopmail.diff

    This patch will modify vadddomain/vadduser to create the user/domain directories 755 instead of 750 so that
    Qsmtpd can look into them. The Maildirs will stay 700.

 3. Download libowfat
 4. Change into libowfat directory and run
    patch -p1 -i ../your/path/to/Qsmtpd/doc/libowfat.diff

    This patch adds some dns lookup functions to libowfat. They are the same already in libowfat but use the normal
    C style parameters instead of DJBs stralloc stuff.

 5. Build libowfat.

    IMPORTANT: If you use dietlibc to build libowfat you must modify CC in Qsmtpd/Makefile to use dietlibc, too!

 6. Make sure openssl is installed including the header files and that "-lssl -lcrypto" work. If the openssl
    libraries are in some special directories change LDFLAGS in Qsmtpd/Makefile to include this path (add -L/path).
 7. Now build Qsmtpd. If you are on an IPv4-only node you may want to block all mails coming from domains with
    only IPv6 MX entries. In this case add "-DIPV4ONLY" to CFLAGS in Qsmtpd/Makefile
 8. Edit trunk/Makefile and change CDBPATH to a directory where cdb.a is (using the one from vpopmail/cdb is ok).

 8a.Look into trunk/patches/ to see if you might need some of these for some special purposes (like sending mail to
    aol.com). Apply everything you need.

 9. cd trunk; make && make install

10. Change your startup scripts to run Qsmtpd instead of qmail-smtpd, the command line will stay the same
11. Make sure your /home/vpopmail/domains (or whereever you put vpopmail) and the domain/user directories are 755.
    Make sure every .qmail-default is mode 644.

12. Install IPv6 enabled tcpserver. Normally just build and install ucspi-tcp with the IPv6 diff. You can use
    Qsmtpd/doc/tcpserver.diff also. When you set the banner with tcpservers -b option it will set BANNER
    environment variable so that Qsmtpd will not send it's own banner. You can use this if you want a custom banner
    or if you want to reduce latency, tcpserver will fork Qsmtpd after all his lookups are done, if you have a slow
    connection this allows the client to send his EHLO/HELO earlier.
13. Test it.
    echo nobounce > /home/vpopmail/domains/one.of.your.domains/user/filterconf
    telnet yourmachine 25
    EHLO mybox.com
    MAIL FROM:<>
    RCPT TO:<user@one.of.your.domains>
    QUIT

    The reply to the RCPT TO: should tell you that this user does not accept bounce messages.
14. If you want qmail-smtpd to accept IPv6 connections you probably also want to send on IPv6 links.
    First move qmail-remote out of the way, then link Qremote:

    mv /var/qmail/bin/qmail-remote /var/qmail/bin/qmail-remote.orig
    ln -s /var/qmail/bin/Qremote /var/qmail/bin/qmail-remote